My local library was having a book sale, and I got this book for fifty cents. What a steal! Having heard of "men are from mars, women are from venus", I decided to give this book a go. It was very interesting. It's all about how men and women approach dating and goes into what the author refers to as the five stages of dating. The stages are attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and engagement. Intimacy does not necessarily mean physical intimacy but rather emotional intimacy. Gray notes that many women are unsuccessful in dating because they skip steps (e.g.- many women jump into intimacy before the man has even entered exclusivity). Gray also emphasizes the traditional roles of the man being the provider and the woman being the receiver. This means that when a man gives a woman a gift, the woman need not concern herself with "making it up" to the man but rather just by being happy and graciously receiving. Gray says that making a woman happy is a gift in and of itself to a man. This does not mean that the woman can't give the man gifts on occasion, but just that it should be the man doing the majority of the gift giving. Gray says that a woman who gives too much and repeatedly rejects a man's gifts sends the message that she is self-sufficient, does not need a man, and that the man is useless. It was also interesting how Gray says that breaking up does not mean that someone doesn't love the other person - it just means they are not compatible in the long run. Gray also talks about embracing differences in dating prospects and getting out to various events to expand one's social circle. There is so much more in this book, but I encourage readers to find out for themselves. May you find your soul mate.
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