“Wired for Dating” by Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
From this book, I learned that there are many neurochemicals going off inside the brain when two people meet. It is important to take time to get to know someone since those “feel good” chemicals do fade over time. These feelings can last 12 to 18 months. Before getting serious with someone, thoroughly vet them. Ask the tough questions and meet the family. There are practical aspects of marriage beyond feelings.
"Love Factually" by Duana C. Welch, PhD
I learned a lot from this book. Most men go for youth / beauty while women go for protection / provision. Women need to pay attention to a man's level of effort in courtship. If he wants you to drive an hour to meet him for a coffee date that he texted you about a day before, he likely does not value you. Men value what they have to work for. Also, many men use women for sex, so it's best to wait. Men can string women along for years as a backup or what the author calls a BTN (Better Than Nothing). Wait for the best and don't commit until you have a true catch.
"Why Men Love Bitches" by Sherry Argov
This book goes into male / female psychology and how many men confuse kindness for weakness. It is imperative for women to stand up for themselves and not chase men. A woman who gives and gives without any reciprocation or who becomes a doormat will never be cherished as a prize. Keep your options open and never let the man think he has a complete hold on you because that is when he stops trying to win you. Don't give a boyfriend the benefits of a husband. Until you are married, you can date whoever you want whenever you want. Also, never nag or fuss; men don't respond to words, they respond to no contact.
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